Quitting the Right Way

 

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Many years ago when I was leaving a company, a colleague advised me to not share any of the problems I faced (during my tenure) in the exit interview. His intention was good. I heeded his advice but did wonder that unless you authentically share your experiences (good, bad and ugly) how will others know and do something about it?

I have thought about this (a lot) over the years and here is what I would advise.

1. If something is bothering you enough to think about quitting, you need to talk about it. And you need to talk about it well in advance (before quitting) to give others a genuine opportunity to correct things. IMO not talking about it in advance is immoral (lacks integrity). You need to believe in the inherent goodness and sincerity of others (till proven otherwise). Assuming that others know what's bothering you or that they wouldn't care anyways even if you tell them is not correct.

2. If you have done the above, given it sufficient time and it didn't help, it's perfectly OK to move on to something better. Once you have decided to move on, don't talk about any negative experiences thereafter. Remember all the good people and experiences you have had in that place and only talk about that. There is no place or person which only good or bad. There is always something good/great in each place and person. So remember and be thankful to them for that.

3. Watch your mindset. Are you leaving the old place or looking forward to the new place? If former, it means you are not at peace with yourself yet. Not a good idea to make move when you are not peaceful.

Move when (and because) you have something exciting to look forward to.

4. It's a small world and everyone is human. There is no reason to not be kind to everyone. Even to those who seem like tormentors. You really don't know what makes them be that way. If you knew, probably you will be able to understand and forgive them.

Treat everyone with kindness and respect regardless of whether you are continuing or quitting.

 PS. Originally published on April 19, 2020 on LinkedIn.